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Sunday, June 23, 2019

Rajasthan Trip Highlights

Dec. 22, 2018

Got up at around 7 am.
Poha for breakfast.
Visited City Palace
Hired a guide
Before lunch: We went on a boat ride in the lake. They took us to Jag Mandir -- a 17th century mid-lake palace.
Had lunch (Rajasthani Thali)

Left for Chittorgarh at around 3 pm
Some goof-ups at bus-stand:
Miss one bus by a few seconds
Got into a bus which was already booked. So, had to leave that.
Got the next one

Bus was very crowded. Tipu enjoyed a lot. We enjoyed too.
Got to Chittorgarh by about 7.30 pm
The hotel -- Keerti Plaza -- is a bit shady
Dinner -- Paneer Chilly -- Aloo paratha -- Gobi paratha -- Curd.
Very spicy. I didn't dislike it. Shilpi didn't like it. Tipu couldn't eat much.

Tomorrow, we will visit Chittorgarh fort -- supposedly one of the largest and oldest historical monuments we have seen so far.

Dec. 23, 2018

 

Woke up around 7 am. Didn't enjoy very deep sleep. It was very noisy through out. Could hear passing vehicles, hoking rail engines, people talking, dogs barking all as if they were happening in the next room. Shilpi found out that we had left the window open overnight. No wonder!

Morning awaited us with two bad experiences. They was a dead spider in the poha we had for breakfast. And there was a nest of a pigeon with two chicks -- apparently dead -- in the gap between the AC and window.

Overall, Keerti Plaza was quite disappointing and overpriced. Only saving grace was that the boys there were polite, friendly and eager to help. They happily kept our luggage after we checked out in the morning.

Visit to Chittorgarh Fort

Autowallahs don't haggle too much here in Rajasthan. We reached the famous fort hopping into auto-rickshaws. The second aut wallah finally convinced us to hire him for the whole day.

Chittorgarh fort was a maginficant experience full of history, heritage, legend, architectural grandeur. This place is too little to summarise over awe and incredulity.

We took a guide shortly after starting our sojourn as we realised that without at least some guidance we would be completely lost in the gigantic place. There were just too many things to see! The guide was somewhat unimpressive. His knowledge was very ordinary and towards the latter part he seemed to have started to get impatient to end the tour, mildly trying to nudge us to give some of the spots a miss.

Highlights:
Kumbha Mahal
Meera Mahal
Padmini Mahal
Vijay Stambh
Kali Mandir
Jain Temple + Kirti Stambh

We had an encounter with a well-built goat. Tipu was especially given attention by him which left him quite shaken and tearful.

We had lunch at a place which served some reasonable food at some unreasable price. We find this collusion between the auto-wallahs and restaurants quite a put-off. We came across two instances of this -- once yesterday and once today.

Anyway, after lunch we picked up our luggage from the hotel and headed straight to the bus stand. This time, the bus catching experience was less hassled than yesterday, although we had to settle for some of the rear seats. However, it turned out well for us as we had some luggage with us.

We reached Udaipur around 7 pm. We were in our homestay by 7.30 pm. Our hosts are Tarun and family. Exceptionally friendly people. We had some 'light' dinner -- omelette, pasta, pizza, hot chocolate. Went on a walk and had some tea.

Some observations

  • It was my first experience of a heritage sight in North India. Needless to say that it's equally rich and mind-blowing as in South India. I was of the opinion that all heritage sites in North India must have been wiped out due to the ravages of a violent past. Rajasthan dispels that misconception.
  • Such complex architecture -- be it the Udaipur City palace or the Vijay Stambh in Chittorgarh -- could they have been constructed without any formal design? My meagre understanding of engineering and design tells me that it is not possible. Then where is all that knowledge gone? Where are the documents with the Indian knowledge of architecture and civil engineering?

 December 24, 2018, 7.30 am

Attitude of Globalised Hosts

In the first house we stayed in, our host -- and particularly their teenaged daughter -- insisted on conversing in English, even though we made it clear through our conversation, that we preferred Hindi. It's not something believable that North Indians living in North India would prefer English to Hindi even wile conversing with North Indian guests.

In both the cases, there was visible a subtle bias in the hosts. Both seem to be proud that most of their guests were foreigners.

On 23rd night, we had dinner at a cafe named Fresh Food Cafe. The host there seemed to have a preset opinion about what the Indian visitors would be looking for. Although I can't charge any of the hosts as lacking in hospitality, this stereotypical mindsets about guests of their own country is unfortunate and rings of a colonial mindset.

December 25, 2018, 3 pm

Yesterday was spent in Udaipur visiting the rest of main attractions:
  1. Ropeway
  2. Fateh Sagar Lake
  3. Hilltop Museum
  4. Monuments near the lake
  5. Saheliyon ki Baari
  6. Shilpa Gram
 We just grazed past Fateh Sagar. After having done a boat ride two days back in the other lake -- and that too after paying a lot of money -- none of us seemed to see much value in repeating the same experience. One observation was, of course, that this lake was bigger and much cleaner. While, Pichola is surrounded by architectures of the older side of the town, the surroundings of Fateh Sagar are more picturesque and natural. Anyway, as the auto-driver silently drove past it, evidently to save his time, none of us made a noise.

Earlier we walked quite some distance uphill to catch the cable car experience. It was like most other places -- very crowded, and absolutely not worth it for the money we paid (Rs. 330). However, an interesting incident was bumping into one of my old acquaintances from IISc (whose name I keep forgetting even though I have met him many times since as a co-examiner in various viva-voce examinations in IIIT-B). He happens to be a common friend of Satyam.

Saheliyon ki Baari turned out rather surprisingly an excellent visit. It's a theme based art gallery and many paintings -- mostly done in traditional style using water colour -- depicting the everyday life of Rajput women -- probably the royal ones in the bygone centuries. There was also a beautiful collection of photographs mostly depicting the aspects of Rajasthani village life.

The highlight of the day was Shilpa Gram -- a theme village exhibiting the arts and crafts and other everyday life aspects of the villages and tribal life in four neighbouring states of Rajasthan: Gujarat, Goa, Maharashtra and Uttar Pradesh along with Rajasthan. 

What all did we experience?
  1. Vigyan learned some wire art.
  2. Shilpi learned some cloth art.
  3. We all witnessed how hand made paper can be made from paper pulp made out of waste paper.

Some Observations

Udaipur tourism service providers -- be it hosts or auto-drivers or hotels and eatery runners, seem to have acquired this haughty and self-aggrandising style which, first of all, is extremely irritating, secondly, is quite contrary to the idea of atithi devo bhava.

Girls put on a lot more make up these days. Younger and younger girls deck up with red pouty lipstick, skimpier dresses, moving around with a lot more self-consciousness. I will stop short of passing a value-judgement about this development.

Yesterday morning, our host Tarun and his wife fed us a nice breakfast. Tarun also asked me to stay free of the worries about the booking of the bus tickets to Barmer.

We returned to the city from Shilpa Gram (which is located at the outskirts) in a bus. We walked about 2 kms to reach the street where our lodging was, hoping to have something light for dinner at Fresh Food Cafe. We found it closed. We went to the other restaurant suggested by Tarun the previous night. The food was OK but the experience was utterly negative. Many of the items in the menu were not available. The place was little and yet under-staffed. The hosts were irritable, probably due to overload of work. It took them very long to serve us our order.

On finally reaching Tarun's house, we were greeted warmly by the family. Their daughter Poojan, who is the same age as Vigyan, showed us all her drawings. I drew for her a family cartoon.

Tarun had already arranged the bus tickets. He volunteered to drop us at the bus-stand as he anyway needed to go there to pick another foreign guest. 

We had one tea together near the bus stop. After a good amount of delay, the bus arrived. Tarun left as his other guests were already there.

Followed a nightlong bus journey which was nothing less than harrowing. I was restricted into a undersized cabin (sleeping) that made me feel like a corpse in a coffin. My window wouldn't fasten properly and would let in trickles of chilling winter air from outside. The size, the cold, the apprehension that we would reach Barmer at 4.30 am as declared by the attendanct, the chatter between the bus crew and the smell of whatever they were smoking (which was anything bus tobacco) team up to not let me sleep.

It later turned out that Shilpi's and Vigyan's experience had been no different than mine.

Eventually, we reached Barmer at around 6.30 am. We quickly got into the car which was waiting for us. Followed a fairly enjoyable 60 km care ride through the arid wilderness of far north west of India. 

Will fill up more details of our first day in Viratra which has been memorable in its own way. Right now, a bit worn out after nearly an hour and a half of scribbling continuously. (4.25 pm)

December 25, 2018, 8.30 pm

So, our car journey from Barmer to Viratra started at 6.45 am. 15 minutes into the journey we just saw the eastern sky starting to lighten up. This is the latest sunrise I have evern seen as far as I remember.

The road was essentially straight lines -- absolute straight lines -- drawn through vast stretches of desolation. So desolate was the expanse that, on encountering human beings, or signs of human habitation, you would wonder what they do here. In fact, what are such beautiful roads doing here when our Neeladri Road, plied upon by hundreds and thousands everyday is so broken! If there's not enough money to repair Neeladri, just imagine the cost of every metre per person of these desert roads!

Viratra is an exquisit impressive and well-endowed temple complex lodged in the midst of rocky mountains in the middle of a desert. Again the same feeling: who comes here? Particluarly in the morning hours, the place was so damned deserted that it would give you a spooky feeling.

The temple guest house, the place we are lodged in, is again a massive residential block with at least a hundred rooms, if not several hundreds. Again, when we entered, ours became the only occupied room. It remained that way till the evening.

The place is under construction. There was continously some racket created by the labourers working here throughout the day.

We wanted breakfast. So, we took the same car to the nearby village Chohtan. Had some nice kachori and chai there. We relieved the car after getting here (temple guest house).

Afternoon, we had our lunch the temple canteen (भोजन शाला). A simple meal (रोटी, चावल, कड़ी, लौकी की सब्ज़ी, छाछ) served with amazing warmth by a temple employee.

Evening, after my last likhaas session, we want trekking on the nearby rocky hill with (apparently a hilltop temple. The trek turned out to be less trivial than we had expected. Around 1300 steps took us up to this little, beautiful and completely deserted temple. Shilpi gave up somewhere around 700 steps as she didn't want to take chances with her health just a day before her workshop. Tipu and I made it all the way up; and that clearly stood out as the achievement of the day.

On our way back we got to see one of the most beautiful sunset views. Far far away in the west beyond the arid plains of the semi-desert, the sun withered away beautifully. This stood out as the view of the day.

We had some tea and returned to the guest house to find that two of Shilpi's colleagues had already arrived. By dinner time all the others -- participants of the workshop from Sirohi and Tonk -- had also arrived.

Other miscellaneous things to happen during the day:
  • Jaisalmer room booking
  • A long pending conversation with Niranjan in which , I got to share with him my disappointing experience at their Satsang temple as a judge to the drawing competition on December 5.
  • Booking of car for our journey tomorrow morning to Barmer.
Tomorrow, Vigyan and I are off to a one and a half day trip to Jaisalmer. While Shilpi gears up for the opening day of her workshop tomorrow, I keep my fingers crossed as this will be my first excursion with Tipu to a new place like this without Shilpi being with us. Hope everything goes off smoothly.

Will return to these notes on Dec. 28, hopefully. Till then, still well. (9.25 pm)


December 28, 2018, 9.15 am

Yesterday evening we returned from a brief visit to Jaisalmer. Here's the account.

We started early in the morning. I had arranged the same car which had taken us from Barmer to Viratra. It was around 5.45 am. It was chilling, utterly dark, and hence very painful. But we needed to squeeze as much time in Jaisalmer. Idea was to reach between 10 am - 11 am. Hence the early start.

At Barmer, we found that a bus was waiting to leave. This bus was going to Jodhpur or Bikamer, and wouldn't pass through Jaisalmer. Nevertheless, our driver nearly shoved us into this us (and I think any such act gets them some kickback). He said that this bus would drop us at an intermediate place called Fatehgarh. From there, another 'connecting' bus would take us to Jaisalmer. So, we got in, took the sear right behind the driver and suffered severe chills all the way to Fatehgarh.

At Fatehgarh there no such connecting bus, nor did this bus people help us any further. We crossed the and in time (about 15-20 minutes) we hopped into a passing bus. This took us to Jaisalmer.

The most mentionable memory of this journey was the sight of literally thousands of windmills sprawled over 10s of kiometres on both sides of the road. The maximum number of windmills I have seen together (again during one of our highway trips) before this would be less than 10. Moreover, all these had been from a distance of several kilometres. Here, we got to see many from a distance of just a few metres.

After getting down at Jaisalmer, we took an auto that took us to our homestay. There, we did the checkin formalities and freshened up. We left for lunch.

We had our lunch at a place called 'Maharaja Restaurant'. It was Tipu's choice, and the food there turned out delicious, partly on its own merit, but also because we were almost starving by then.


December 30, 2018, 3.45 pm

Vigyan announced even before  the meal was over that he would like to rest for a while after our lunch before we started on any sight seeing. I accepted his urge. We went back to our room and napped for about 45 minutes.

We were back in the streets again. Our first point of visit was Patwa ki Haveli.

Patwa ki Haveli

A residential mansion belonging to a family of accountants in the royal court. The mansion has been turned into a museum showcasing the articles of everyday lives of its residents; cooking, wardrobe, work related (e.g. pens, locks, tables, cabinets), and things belonging to relatively more rencent times, e.g. gramophones, radios and even a 50 year old refridgerator.

One of the most remarkable things about the havi were the mind-bogglingly intricate carvings on the stones with which the whole structure was constructed. The beauty was almost too much to take in. It gave me an aching feeling that I had no option but to just ignore. There simply was too much to take in.

Some observations

The haveli was built on a relatively small area. The floors were mounted one on top of the other. The staircases were narrow, doors were low. Clearly accessibility wasn't one of the goals in the architecture.
The design of the buildings is too intricate to be of a brute force nature. There clearly was followed a formal architectural discipline. The question is: where has all the blueprint gone?
There were too many Bengali tourists. They would move in these large groups. The ladies would be shouting, commanding, scolding in the typical Bengali mannerisms. The group would definitely have some matriarchs who must visit every corner of the monument, and climb every floor, thus creating bottlenecks everywhere. We soon realised that it was wise not to go to a spot that had such a crowd.
There was another haveli (or may be another part of the same Haveli) which was owned by the government (the first one is owned by a trust). This part was are and not maintained at all, and had a rather sad look to it. I again wondered -- why does it have to be this way in our country?

From the Haveli we moved to the famous Jaisalmer fort -- the fort that was made famous by Satyajit Ray through his Feluda story called   শোনার কেল্লা (shonar kella).

The fort, through smaller than the Chittorgarh fort, has a more impsing personality. It looms large on the horizon of the city, is visible from almost everywhere in the town, and looks really majestic with its Golden coloured walls and gables.

The entry to the fort was equally imposing: a delight to the eyes of an artist.

Quite contrary to the Chittorgarh fort it was a 'living fort,' with residents living in houses and havelis lining streets wide enough only for pedastrians. Turns out that these people are all descendents of the ancient royals.

The things we saw there were:
King's palace which has again been turned into an museum.
Jain temple which was already closed for the day.
Lakshmi Nath mandir which is again supposedly ancient temple.

We snacked in the evening on some bhel purchased from a street cart and cold coffee from a posh but thinly populated rooftop cafe. 

It appeared that we had pretty much seen what was there to see in the fort. We'd decided that we would have an Italian dinner in one of the restaurants inside the fort. So, an early plan was to wile away our time till dinner inside the fort itself, then head back to the shelter after finishing dinner. However, it gradually turned out not to be working out. It was getting colder every passing minute, and we had left out sweaters and mufflers back at the shelter. We decided to go back and later come back for dinner.

The walk back was through myriad super narrow lanes, lined with houses/havelis all running into each other, assisted by Google Maps, with hundred encounters with cows and oxen and their holy refuse. This held true with all walks in Jaisalmer town.

Observation. Almost all cattle in Rajasthan look really well fed. They also look furrier than in other places. Rajasthan gave a feeling of being dominated by Hindutva ideas.

Anyway, we got back to our shelter, collected our warm clothes, and engaged in a short but interesting conversation with Mr. Pramod, the owner of the place. Mr. Pramod turned out to be a music enthusiast with aspiration to learn playing the harmonium. He also had made a collection of bhajans in a notebook. Turns out that in Rajsthan people sing bhajans even when someone dies. These bhajans are of a particular kind: philosophical and reflective.

In due time, we left for dinner. Had dinner at the Italian place inside the fort. It was one of the most memorable moments: Tipu's company, delicious dinner, the fort all alight at the backdrop and the slight chill in the air.

When we returned back to our shelter it was as early as 9.30 pm. We were sure that we would be in no great hurry to start out next day's sight-seeing. Hence, pleny of time to rest. We read for a while and slept.

The next morning, we were all set to begin the day's adventures by about 9 am. We had poha in breakfast (which was served in such large portions that I barely managed to finish my part, and Vigyan left half of his). When we were out on the road after checking out, I already sensed some dullness in Vigyan. Over the day this grew pronounced and forced some real time decision-making on my part.

The day's plan was to cover the Gadisar lake in the morning, have an early lunch and start our journey back to Viratra as early as possible. An adventure planned for this journey was to cover it completely using public transport. Considering the extremely isolated location of Viratra, this ambition was non-trivial.

Gadisar turned out to be a complete let-down as far as its physical beauty went. We have bigger and cleaner and more lush lakes right here within a few kilometres of where we stay in Bangalore. However, it was lined with remains of architectural structures which are crumbling , beautiful, mysterious and ancient looking. A Shiva temple, a house with a compound which turned out to be a private property of a gentleman based out of Mumbai who comes here every winter to spend a few days.

I wished to explore, trek around the lake and possibly take a complete round of it. But Tipu kept expressing his unwillingness to do so. Initially, I interpreted it to be a sign of his unexploring and timid nature. However, increasingly it started getting clearer that he wasn't feeling well and was running out of energy. Nevertheless, we did trek around a bit.

On our way out of the lake compound, we stopped by a group of local boys -- all aged between about 6 to 15 -- sitting and singing a variety of folk, film and semi-classical songs with a panache. They did a wonderful job as a team of performers in entertaining the bystanders and passers by. Listening to them singing will have to be recorded as the most memorable experiences for me while visiting the lake.

We returned briefly to our homestay to pick up our remaining bag and left for the bus stand. In an attempt to reach the bus-stand through a more optimal path we came across another haveli called Nachani haveli. This is currently being inhabited by the descendants of its makers. It also has a restaurant on the terrace. That's where we had our lunch. Finishing that we headed straight to the bus stand. I found this walk a bit painful as the sun had got pretty sharp by now.

By the time we got into the bus for Barmer, it was clear that Vigyan's unwellness wasn't an eyewash. Shortly after the bus started I decided that it would be too much of a risk to try covering the entire journey using bulci transport. I called up the taxi people and booked a taxi from Barmer to Viratra.

The remaining journey was uneventful. The distance from Jaisalmer to Barmer, being about 157 km, was covered in about 3 hours. Shortly after 5 pm, we were in Barmer and off on our way to Viratra in the taxi.

We were sipping coffee/milk at the temple cafeteria at about 7 pm in company of Shilpi and Mahuya both of whom looked a bit exhausted and a lot relaxed on having successfuly completed two days of their workshop. The third day was reserved for wrap-up activities; so both were pretty relaxed.

The dinner had a horrendously spicy cabbage curry. This tipped the balance for my stomach. Immediately after having it, I started feeling unwell. By the way, by this time Vigyan had improved quite a lot -- probably after having been reunited with his mom.

We went to bed soon afterwards, but I think I slept badly.

Oh yes! After the dinner and before going to bed there were two interesting things:
Shilpi introduced me to one of her colleagues named Yawar (यावर) who teaches arts in an APF school in Tonk. We had some interesting discussion about drawing. Yawar had a few tips which I may like to use. One is to draw often. Another in to sketch. Another is to draw on small dimensions. Yawar himself came across as an exceedingly simple and pleasant gentleman.

Thereafter, there was a fun/informal gathering of all the participants. Two highlights:
There was this person called Markandeya (मार्कण्डेय) who is a music teacher. He presented two songs. I can boldly say that he was easily one of the best singers I have listened to live and off-stage.
Rajasthanis love dancing. It happened through the gathering at least a few times that they played a few lines of some beaty song, people got up from their places, danced for a few seconds, and were back at their places. Very much in line with my earlier experience at Shipra's wedding more than 11 years ago, I found all of them pretty free with their dance steps; no inhibitions at all.


December 31, 2018

On Dec. 28, I kept feeling unwell right from the time I wake up. There was severe feeling of indigestion couple with feverishness. Shilpi got us some breakfast which I finished mechanically. Thereafter, I sat down to write these notes, but couldn't sustain for long. I lay down and even caught some sleep. Tipu was around minding his own business. We went down to the dining hall at about 1.45 pm. I had some plain rice with two glasses of butter milk.

Shilpi got done with her workshop by the time we finished lunch. We left very shortly, around 3.15 pm.

We visited the nearby sand dunes, on our way to Barmer. People throng to the sand dunes near Jaisalmer. Obviously, these have turned crowded and got polluted. Here in Viratra (Chohtan, rather) the dunes were nearly pristine. Nearly, because here too some idiots had left their trail by breaking beer bottles in the sand making it a dangerous thing to walk barefoot on the sand. Note that walking barefoot on the soft smooth sand is one of the experiences you wouldn't like to miss. However, thanks to our predecessors, these dunes can never again be walked on barefoot. Nevertheless, it was great fun!

We left shortly with loads of sand hiding in the folds of our dresses.

One conversation though brief mustn't be missed. Someone wondered what the villagers living in such desolate stretches do for their living. Aren't they afraid of thieves and robbers? The straightforward answer was that most of them are so poor that they mayn't possess anything worth robbing or stealing. Further, with such vast dissolation around, it's not easy for theives to escape; there's nowhere to run away to. I just made a mention of a less straightforward, but equally important explanation. Habitations with dense population also breed heterogeneity and disparity. Economic and social. These disparities are the prime cause of giving people ideas for committing crimes. For any complex socio-economic system, there always will be a section which finds itself deprived, shortchanged and cheated. This collective feeling is the true seed for any criminal or anti-social thoughts. When such a system is either inexistent or too rudimentary, such thoughts don't get enough fodder to strengthen. Hm!

Anyway, off to Barmer. We were dropped well before 5 pm. I purchased some ORS sachets from the nearby medical store. We found out train already waiting on the platform. So, we settled down. 5.45 pm, our train left for Jaipur.

When it was around 7 pm, I started experiencing initial pangs of hunger. I felt it would be a good idea to ascertain that we would get food if we wanted. When we enquired we realised that this train had no pantry in the train. Further, the train would stop at a station in some time only for 2 minutes. That would be our only chance to get some food. When that station arrived, I hurried out to get something. I was particularly concerned that if Tipu started feeling hungry later, the situation would become rather difficult. 

Anyway, as soon as I got out into the platform, the chill outside hit me like a lightning. Our coach was AC and was on heater. We were sitting inside in ordinary clothers. On coming in contact with the code, I got such a shiver as I have never before experienced. I purchased 2 plates of poori sabji. But due to the haste and because of the shivering I toppled one of the subjis, and soiled my shoe. Anyway, what I could take back turned out to be enough for three of us. We ate and slept.

Another good decision we took was to book a room in Jaipur as soon as we got into the train.

We were of the idea that the train would arrive at Jaipur at 6.30 am. It did so at 4.30 am. Our idea was wrong.

We took an Ola taxi, reached our Oyo Rooms hotel and checked in. Within no time we huddled and cuddled up into bed. Got up around 8 am, had breakfast at our room. We were out on our Jaipur sightseeing expedition by about 10 am. We took a cycle rickshaw. The experience for me was an excitement of doing something I hadn't done in a long time and that of guilt about participating in a practice that's based on exploitation and human degradation.

Anyway! We wanted to see Hawa Mahal, Jantar Mantar and City Palace all of which are located in close vicinity of each other.

Very quickly, we all could sense that this day our ability to enjoy the sightseeing was visibly diminished. One was of course the exhaustion and saturation and saturation that had justifiably set in after being out on the roads for more than a week. The other was this horrendously increased crowd compared to any other place we had been to during this tour. Again all those Bengali tourists blocking the passageways. Hawamahal truly didn't give me any memories I would like to preserve.

Next was Jantar Mantar; and guess! It was awesome! It's a compound housing a variety of astrological instruments to measure time, spot constellations and determine zodiac signs. The ideas were sometimes scientific, sometimes not. But the engineering was first order stuff. Two questions:
It was understandable how the instruments were to be used. It wasn't mentioned anywhere how they were designed.
Again the old doubt. Can't believe that such complex engineering and architectural projects can be implemented without explicitly documented designs. Where did they go?

We took a guide who walked us through most of the instruments. We also watched a 10 minute video. There was a huge queue for the video show. But one show happened for a group of VIPs -- relatives of the new DG of police appointed by the recently elected congress state governement. Inside, a tourist from Maharashtra had sat both his sons in the first row while standing himself. A senior lady rudely made the younger of the two boys to get up, and took that seat. Though the father raised an objection, it had no effect. The whole family left in indignation. Really! Why did that lady behave like a brute. Did she absorb anything that got showed in the video? I felt a seeting rage and an urge to go and ask her. What makes people behave meanly and selfishly? The form of love hat tries to reserve resources for one's own loved ones by appropriating them from others is one of the most detestable and overrated emotions, and is likely at the root of much evil in this world.

JM done, we all agreed that we weren't left with any more energy to see the City Palace. The feeling was akin to that we get on being in a buffet with 100 different items on offer, and the tummy already full after having the first few.

We had lunch at an awefully crowded eatery serving very bad Rajasthani that at too much price. We came out feeling even more sick and bloated. By now our impatience to get back home, sleep on our bed, have home-made food, was overflowing and dripping. 

We had some kulfi and gajak as dessert (I don't know why -- probably to neutralise the fire that was burning after the incredibly spicy lunch). Meanwhile, Shilpi booked an Ola. However, that booking got cancelled as we and the cab driver couldn't locate each other. Finally we took an auto to the hotel, picked up our luggage and reached airport using another Ola.

The flight was delayed by about 30 minutes. In time we boarded. Shilpi exchanged her seat with me as she wanted to sit with Tipu. We landed in Bangalore around 11 pm. We reached home by about 12.45 am.

Thus came to a successful end our Rajasthan trip.

JM Trivia
During one of the breaks in JM, I was trying to draw Vigyan's attention to the overwhelming sophistication and grandeur of the place. I told him how the wicked the machine of imperialism works, not by waging a war against the colonised, but by breaking their pride and confidence. And what mechanism do they use? They go about decimating all evidence of past glory: whether cultural (by destroying monuments), material (by stealing it) or scholarly (by purging scriptures and scholarly text).

When I urged to Vigyan to share what he thought of this, he said that British had cannons which worked using gunpowder. Canons using larger bore barrels are less powerful than those with thinner barrels.

😲 

Epilogue 

Rajasthan trip gave me the following:
A revelation that ancient architectural monuments of North haven't all been wiped out due to its violent history of wars and invasions, as I used to think.
A lot of knowledge about its history: Maha Rana Pratap, Meera, Padmini, Uday Singh, Jaisingh II, Kumbha ...

But what kept working on me silently through my stay there and is probably going influence me and lastingly is the warmth in its people. That kindness, gentleness, non-judgemental smiling attitude nothwithstanding  the sizzling, arid, impoverished, lonely life. That's the souvenir I take away from Rajasthan, and will hopefully be able to touch all aspects of my life with it.

PS. At least two times, during the trip a thought struck me that touring seems like such a middle class recreation. When we were queueing up in the sun to purchase tickets to Jantar Mantar, or taking a boat ride to JagMahal, or taking a boat ride to JagMahal, I was wondering if a person like Shahrukh Khan or Mukesh Ambani would ever do such a thing. They would probably go to other more exotic places inaccessible to people like us to avoid mobbing. Or would they just rent the place out exclusively for themselves to keep the corwd out. What do such people think of us: insects? bugs? I wonder! Also, what really is the takeaway from visiting tourist spots? Do we really feel something, or it is merely the feeling of doing something apart from day-to-day chores to support our insignificant and inconsequential existence? 

Online Food Delivery and Traffic

These days, nearly half the traffic on city roads is accounted for by Ola, Uber, Zomato, Swiggy, Food Panda etc. delivery people (although, these exploited lot are invariably men, I call them 'people' and not 'boys', to suppress the fact that there are myriad ways other than gender in which members of the society are exploited, and these contribute as strongly as gender, if not more strongly, to the unfair society we have built. But heck, let me not digress!).
The management of these companies seem to incentivise quick service. I don't know if they do so by rewarding larger number of services in less time, or penalising delays. But for sure they have some such mechanism. And therefore, these organisations can't just turn their eyes away from the fact that their drivers and delivery people drive very rashly, break traffic rules left and right, and make the road a dangerous place to venture out to for others and themselves.
I won't do the due diligence, and will assume that these companies are founded and run by some young entrepreneurs who are respected and proud for their good academic/professional pedigree. They must be going around giving talks and interviews about work ethic, good organisation culture, entrepreneurial instincts, sustainability and 'giving it back to the society'. I think, they should stop being hypocrites and look squarely at the unfairness and exploitation their ventures are built on. This system considers its drivers and delivery people as cannon fodders.
I don't want to send anyone on a guilt trip, but consumers of these services, who don't think twice before calling a taxi or ordering a meal, should also pause and reflect for a moment on what role they have to play in this game of exploitation.
The big people who are running these companies should take it upon themselves to see what they can do to make it possible for taxi drivers and delivery people to drive safely. If possible, this mechanism shouldn't all be technology driven surveillance systems cracking down on violations, but should be based on basic humanitarianism.
Here's a few simple questions:
  1. Can you institute a reward for drivers or deliver boys who drive safely?
  2. Can you absorb the losses caused due to delays (traffic, kitchen) which are not in the hands of your drivers or delivery people?

Saturday, February 23, 2019

Many Atlases

This world is filled with many high-quality people. Many more than we would be prepared to acknowledge. You will see among seemingly ordinary people, qualities you would think only belongs to the so-called super-successful people of the world. You would find a domestic help with an unconditional devotion to do his/her work meticulously, a person struggling with his/her finances jumping in to help someone in crisis, people absorbing bereavement, failure, disease with resilience and fortitude ...

It's just that we have picked up a few of these qualities and created a system which rewards only that small subset: intelligence, ambitiousness, competitiveness, communication skills and may be a few more. While we all struggle to align ourselves to that set of qualities (which, by the way, often turns us into unnatural, unempathetic, cold creatures with a very restricted view of the world) so that we can extract the most benefit from this system we have designed, we must never forget that the qualities which this system has so unfairly left out are also equally signs of quality. They work silently, unrewarded, continuously to make this world a better place, a bit more endurable, for all of us. The actual reason this world exists is also because of so many other people who are holding it up through their little, numerous deeds of goodness -- which this world has so brazenly decided to not count.

We all may be winners or losers in various measures in this system. But let's all be modest. Let's, at least in our personal capacity, not forget to acknowledge and respect any instance of quality that we think makes this world a somewhat better place, regardless of whom we see that quality in.

Monday, December 31, 2018

Good Dressing

I saw this post on my Facebook timeline today. First I wrote the following piece as a comment, then decided to make it a post of my own, and finally decided to shift it here.
 
Somehow, most of the very dressing items used by 'fashion conscious people' (I used 'people' instead of 'women' to make it gender neutral) are uncomfortable (like the one in this post), inconvenient (like extra long gowns and super-short skirts), inefficient (e.g. with metres of clothing dragging on the floor sweeping dust while doing little to cover the body), unreliable (e.g. leading to wardrobe malfunctions), painful (e.g. stilettos, waxing, piercing, tattoos) and even harmful (chemicals, procedures). Somehow, discussions on these have become a taboo. One reason is because whenever a person who doesn't use such things makes a comment on this (a man or a 'old-fashioned' aunty), the issue gets quickly confused with 'freedom of dressing as one likes' issue. And they won't stop until they beat the question to 'whether you think short skirts lead to rapes' or 'whether you mean that girls invite rape by dressing'. This is because that's their favourite topic, and they know that it's become so well-accepted to be abusive in such topics that they will definitely win the debate.

Also there is this whole 'expression of myself' thingie which gets over-used without much understanding of what it means. In fact, 'expression of oneself', is a catchphrase tossed by the fashion corporates for gullible people to grab, so that they keep buying their stuff imagining it to be some sort of expression. How about really thinking if you have something to express? In the slim probability that you indeed have something, how about giving other traditional modes of expressions a chance: write a poem, story, novel, essay, play; act; sing; cook something; dance; draw a picture; invent something; give a speech. Basically do something yourself. Tell me: how can a commodity, idea or design purchased off-the-shelf with money be your expression?

To me, functional dressing which is comfortable, doesn't impede movement, doesn't make you sore, doesn't make you conscious about which part of your body can be seen without your 'consent', which doesn't require a regular splurging of money at the beauty parlour and is environment friendly, is the best kind of dressing.

In saying the above, I am just exercising my right to express my opinion about what good dressing is, not telling you what you are allowed or supposed to wear. So, please don't come lashing back propping up your abusiveness as intellectual sarcasm. I will not take that bait. Nor am I afraid enough (yet) not to say what I think is reasonable.

Wish you a Happy New Year!

Sunday, May 20, 2018

Some Quick but Beautiful Throughts

A quick little list of useful thoughts:
  • Making progress in a task is more important than completing it.
  • Starting a work is more difficult than finishing it.
  • I have already earned my place in this world. There's nothing much more to be earned for myself. Now what remains is to make it (the world) better. And I can do it in my own pace.
  • Thinking works.
  • Education is to make life better. If one's own life doesn't get better through learning, there's no use. But don't take this sentence at its face-value. It's deeper than it initially looks.
  • Art is very important.
  • People/world/life are beautiful. Seek out that beauty. Only connect to their beautiful part. Ignore the rest.

Saturday, July 29, 2017

Respect and Reverence

Respect makes you observe the person, opens you to allowing fundamental changes in yourself through close observation of the person, criticising the person and disagreeing with him. Reverence makes you do either or both of the following:

  • follow a person with blind faith, which essentially amounts to expecting to enjoy benefits from the moral standards of the other person without necessarily having to follow them yourself
  • makes you merely worship him, which is the same as closing yourself from answering for deviating, in the garb of false humility, from the standards (followed by the object of your reverence) which you know you should follow.
The side-effects of confusing reverence with respect may be more serious than meets the eye directly. One of the most glaring examples is that of spiritual gurus.

Reverence is based on a radical maxim that deepest insights -- typically spiritual in nature -- can be imbibed from outside of oneself, somewhat similar in principle to a company which tries to grow and flourish by acquiring another company. Spiritual growth, as per me, can happen only organically, through self-discovery.

Spiritual gurus often start their onslaught by saying that following them will lead to strengthening of your spiritual energies, which will then lead to great strides in spiritual growth. However, this often leads to a life full of rituals, all in the name of spiritual practices. The promised spiritual growth, which by definition, is very elusive and immeasurable, never happens. Instead, the person is drawn further away from people with habits and beliefs not aligned with the ways prescribed by the guru. This alienations starts at a social and behavioural level, proceeds through being intellectual alienation, and ends up by snapping emotional connection with anyone or any group which disagrees or dissents. This is the first step in the direction of radicalisation and intolerance.

The succour comes from the fact that disciples of the guru, going through similar experiences, are drawn closer and closer to each other. It is based on agreement in habits and ways of daily life, but eventually grows into alignment in beliefs and thoughts. This creates intellectual ghettos -- a bunch of disciples who are guaranteed to never disagree with the majority, and with overflowing eagerness to see their guru's statements proving to be true. The force which drives these people is infinite, inexplicable reverence for a so-called guide. External references are accepted only to the extent that they don't fall foul with whatever has been said by the guru. Such interactions between disciples can only create superstitions and pseudo-science: stories of air-travel and nuclear warfare being invented in India, astrology, energy fields around human bodies etc. etc. etc. Any inferences and conclusions drawn in interactions happening within such ghettos is intellectually mimed and very predictable. The basic standards of critical analysis, debates and scepticism are hardly met to allow any serious debate, and give no intellectual credence to these agreements.

These disciples keep reassuring each other that they continue to be the mild and modest people as they were; that no radicalisation has happened. And yet, here you have created, a fertile ground for raising an army of faithful ferocious soldiers who will use everything in their reach -- weapons or words -- to stamp out any voice of disagreements which dare question the absolute authority of the guru.



In short: Respect. Don't Revere.

Saturday, April 29, 2017

A Citizen's Contribution to a Sustainable Planet

The reality of human caused climate change has passed the stage when denying its presence would give any real solace. It's happening and humans are responsible for whatever will unfold upon our future generations because of it. The lasting solutions to these problems – if they ever come – must be spearheaded by governments. However, governments are constrained by other more immediate problems to deal with: economic development, education, health, national security, not to mention elections and vote banks. Individuals, on the other hand, are free to apply practices of sustainability quite directly. For them, the problem is that of replicating the benefits: how do I convince people around me to adapt these methods? Or how's it going to help if only I do it while most others continue living callously? Many of us have the tenacity to work towards a sustainable model of life at an individual level, but can't find the will to spread the word.

Anyway, parking the above very real and difficult issues, let's see what changes an urban citizen can bring about in his life to approach a more sustainable lifestyle. It turns out the steps are concrete, doable, have multiple benenfits, cost little or nothing, and immediately becomes examples for willing others to replicate – eschewing the need for explicit activism.

Reduce Vehicular Pollution. Vehicles contribute significantly to atmospheric pollution. Individuals can reassess their part in this major evil. Office commute is probably the single biggest reason why we travel on road everyday. We should ask ourselves if we are being considerate to sustainability in our choice of our mode of daily commute. For example, cars are a good choice if you have to travel a long distance, and there are at least 3-4 people travelling the same way. However, if our workplace is within a few kilometres of our residence, if we are reasonably fit, and if there is no one else to travel along with us, there seems to be no justification to travel by car. There are several other alternatives: car pooling, public transport, 2-wheeler and so on. For those willing to go a step further, walking and bicycling are not just eco-friendly, but also good for your health. For longer journeys, consider travelling on land instead of air if possible.

Water conservation. Water tables are plummetting around us. Water bodies which used to be a pride of our city's landscape have been gradually consumed by greed and corruption of the real-estate sector. Most apartment complexes in the city are now at the mercy of water tanker suppliers – which is much less a business than a ferocious mafia. Unavailability of pottable water has been quoted as one of prime reasons for possibly turning Bangalore into an uninhabitable city in the next one decade, as predicted by some experts. There are a hundred things through the day that we can do to conserve water. Bathing from a bucket instead of shower. Using RO filter reject water for mopping, cleaning and flush. Immediately repairing tap leaks. Ask your apartment management to ensure perfect maintenance of the sewage treatement plant (STP), organic waste converter (OWC) and rainwater harvesting system. Also, working towards having a centralised RO plant for supplying drinking water to the whole apartment complex would result in thousands of litres of water being saved everyday.

Waste management. Our cities are drowning in filth. Choked drains. Overflowing landfills. Polluted lakes and rivers. Contaminated ground water. Much of this filth emerges from our homes. What can we do to stop contributing to this hellish affair? Following the well-known mantra of reduce, reuse, recycle is a good starting point. We should start segregating waste at its source, so that only the most unprocessable of domestic waste ends up in landfills. Avoid plastic use (e.g. carry your own bag to grocery shops). Use printing judiciously at office. Encourage your apartment complex management to spend resources in keeping their STP and OWC in working condition.

Cut Down on Consumption. There's a lot of stigma around the topic of leading a simple life, these days. Never have people shown such fierce unity in anything as in voicing their right to consume blindly. However, the arithmetic of consumption and pollution is a straightforward one. Binge shopping, eating or any type of consumption has an environmental cost which we are not paying, but somebody else surely is, or will. Our addiction to electronic devices, AC and other electrical appliances are feeding off the thermal power plants, which are major contributors to carbon emission. Our seers and visionaries have cautioned against a life of greed and consumption for thousands of years. Our generation has now enough evidences to know that our seers were never as correct in any other matter. Cutting down on blind consumerism is no more a moral stand in our age; realities of climate change have turned this into plain common sense.

Debates on how governments and leaders should play a central role in shaping an environmentally sustainable society will continue. But consider the following: every bill or law enforced by government bodies will have to be implemented on the ground by citizens through daily practices and processes, whether willingly or under the whip. With a bit of awareness, it's not difficult to understand what those practices should be. Why can't we not go ahead and do them ourselves? At our apartment complex, we have implemented waste segregation entirely as a voluntary initiative; and it has worked. At an individual level, I and my family have been following most, if not all, of the above practices. And I am there to testify that this hasn't dealt a blow on the quality of our lives. These are not sacrifices, but just the right things to do. That 'nobody understands' is honestly a very lame excuse to keep following the herd marching towards the precipice. Let's get rid of our resistance to change, and embrace sustainability as the way of life. Let's not just leave a liveable planet for our children; but also teach them how to leave one for their children in turn.

The article was published in Deccan Herald on April 21, 2017. Here's the link.

Wednesday, March 08, 2017

Good Wishes and a Rejoinder on Women's Day

Girls! Keep up the good work! And consider us all in it together.

Rejoinder

A few requests:
  • Consider us your allies.
  • Ask for help. We mayn't not always know how to, but we do want to. We don't judge.
  • Don't keep saying "Men won't understand what it is to be a woman in this men's world." First of all, we didn't make this world. Why is it relevant to make a point like, 'Tum nahi samjhoge Rahul, Kucch Kuchh Hota Hai?' Secondly, why won't we understand? The real social disease is 'discrimination'; there's nothing so unique about discrimination against women, that in spirit, only they can understand it. We all have been victim of very severe forms of discrimination in a variety of ways: caste, economic, national, racial ... We mayn't get it exactly, but we do get it. Enough to be useful in helping remove it. No point belabouring the point.
  • And just to top it up, please do acknowledge that the suffering that women face is one of the many kinds of sufferings, all of which are quite severe. Certain amount of activism is good to generate social anti-bodies against atrocities. But to weed out the root cause requires intellectual analysis. Some of us should also give serious thought on what the social (or probably biological) processes and structures are which lead to all kinds of discriminatory practices (gender related practices being one of them) to get mainstream acceptance over time? Once you are done with your day's activism, I invite you to an evening tea with me to mull over such questions: Why not a Dalit Day, Tribalman's Day, Negro Day, Poor Person's Day, Senior Person's Day, Physically Challenged Person's Day etc. All these classes have suffered discrimination and inhuman atrocities of comparable order as women have?

In short, let it not be an all-girl's party. Let us boys in too and work alongside you.

Monday, January 30, 2017

Humanely Treating Our Domestic Helps

The other day, Sadiqa, our domestic help, came to work even though her daughter was terribly ill. That day, she did her work against continual requests from Shilpi to let it be and go back home. All the time struggling against a torrent of tears, she just said: "I would drop everything but finish your work, Didi!"
We can't put a value on the contribution of our housemaids in simplifying our day-to-day lives. And often, the sort of trust, love, honesty and sacrifice displayed by them is hard to explain. In our country, the overall terms of employment of these people is fundamentally unfair, as they are tuned to keep them in perpetual penury. It's a hidden form of bondage or slavery or serfdom where there are no visible ropes to bind them, no physical whips to crack. But there's a craftily designed social system which keeps them subjugated.
My heart bleeds to hear stories of atrocities meted out on domestic helps everyday. Of course, the newspapers are full of news of housemaids being raped and murdered (often the other way round too). Leaving alone such extreme cases, many people treat them like machines or beasts of burden. Here are some of the horror stories we have heard about how people treat the domestic helps, often right in our current neighbourhood:
  • Continuous haggling about salary. People driving SUVs to office and women splurging tens of thousands on online shopping just to stay on the top of fashion trends make a very ugly sight haggling with poor people for a mere few hundreds a month.
  • No leaves. Most people here has a five-day working week, and feel guiltlessly entitled to a cushy salary from that much productivity. However, they raise hell when the domestic help asks for a leave. Illness, personal emergency, rain and snow, festivals, national holidays -- nothing is a valid grounds for asking for a leave. Such false sense of entitlement; such double-standards!
  • Tasks beyond the terms of employment. Often, domestic helps are made to run to get grocery, chop vegetables, clean meat or fish, cook, massage the ladies, dusting and cleaning -- all things beyond what they are employed for, and without being compensated.
  • Mountain piles of vessels to clean. Shouldn't we be thinking a bit when adding one vessel over another about how it would be if we were to clean them? The tiny gesture of wetting the vessels would reduce the effort of cleaning them by an order. But, few people seem to have the sensitivity to do so.
  • Unsegregated waste. Waste segregation is mandatory in our complex. It's the residents' responsibility to segregate waste properly and put them in the current bins. However, there are people who drop all garbage on the floor in a wanton manner leaving it for the domestic help to collect them while cleaning the floor. The housemaid is forced to segregate them before tossing them into the bins. How much more sickening could someone get?!
We move about claiming to be well-educated people, God fearing people, socially aware people. But we treat our domestic helps, who are often more a family than employees, with such inhuman unfairness! Our hypocrisy is nauseating!

Tuesday, December 06, 2016

Fighting Judgemental Behaviour

Judgemental behaviour means all actions and attitudes demonstrating a preconceived opinion about a person or a group. Have you ever been witness to statements phrased in some way, but seeming to mean the following?
  • You are an expatriate? So, you are a gold-digger and don't love your country.
  • You are a Non-vegetarian? So you are cruel.
  • You are busy and successful? You must be an over-ambitious, haughty and selfish person who neglects his family, friends and relations.
  • You are poor? You must be a moron.
  • You are an Asian or African? You must have come here to take away my job.
  • You don't dress like me? You must be a slut/un-modern person.
I confess, some of the above are from my own experiences: I was bullied by my peers in my childhood for my (premature) intellectual inclinations. I have been a target of direct and indirect verbal attacks from some of my relatives who have construed my choice of career (and moving away from my native town) etc. as my selfishness or ambitiousness. My holding a PhD has been unfairly treated as being equivalent to my being an 'academic' (read un-practical), conceited and arrogant person. I have been judged as un-smart for not dressing up in a particular way! The list goes on. Whenever such remarks were made at me, there's been one thing common in all of them: they have never confronted me; they never gave me a chance to defend my case. All these remarks were made behind my back, or in the garb of casual social jokes, or as indirect insinuations. My attempt to confront and seek clarifications mostly have gone vain: they simply didn't reply, blocked me, laughed asking me not to take a joke personally, so on and so forth.

Such opinions are formed on shaky and unrealistic grounds (insecurity, jealousy, pseudo-science, family sob stories, cheap literature and movies etc.). They take shape before or in absence of adequate interaction with the concerned person or group. They are closely associated with personal or collective ego, and hence, often dictate a person's/group's behaviour long after he/she/they have been proven wrong. For example, a person who has been mistreating economically disadvantaged people as inferiors will find it very humiliating when he has to treat them as his equals.

Judgemental attitude leads to bitter, unfair behaviour, sarcastic and blaming statements, discriminatory and damning attitude. The concerned person feels the presence of judgementalism but feels helpless against it, because such behaviour is often indirect, seemingly casual and brief. The consequences of judgemental behaviour are severe, leading to broken relations and shattered self-esteem. It often leads to feeling of guilt which can't be pinned down to anything in particular. In the extreme case, such behaviour leads to class discriminations and racism.

We always battle against judgements: as perpetrators as well as victims. Both predicaments lead to sorrow. How do we fight judgementalism?

For Victims

  • It is impossible to make everyone happy. Consider this case as a casualty.
  • Know the truth. Know well that what's being said about you isn't probably correct. Look at yourself in your entirety and understand that an opinion of the kind must arise from a viewpoint which is accidentally or deliberately not considering you in your full-dimensions.
  • Empathise. Judgemental people are mostly battling against some insecurity, guilty feeling or jealousy. By passing judgements, they are trying to hide their own weakness by turning the spotlight on you. They are internally in pain. Feel their pain, and forgive.
  • Take no nonsense. Fight against unfair show of judgemental behaviour. Most judgemental behaviour comes veiled in indirect insinuations and sarcastic remarks. Confronting them means taking a risk of being put in a silly spot by the statement 'this is not about you!' or 'I was just kidding!' The judgemental person wants to keep the option of continuing to hurt you by not being confronted. Confront him/her. Either the person will cower down, or he/she will lash back with all his/her venom. Fight back. Make it clear that what they think of you is their business, but how they behave with you needs to be acceptable.

When we are judging

  • Are you not guilty of exactly the same thing which you are charging the other person of?
  • Are you above all those vices you find so hateful in the other person?
  • Have you given the other person a fair opportunity to know that he/she is being judged?
  • Have you given the other person a fair opportunity to put forth his/her side?
  • Have you considered all aspects of the other person's life and personality before passing a judgement?
  • What is your actual reason for taking a narrow view of a person's position? Is it indeed your 'personal view' as you might want to put it? Or does it arise from an unwillingness to look at the matter critically and holistically?
  • Think of how many good experiences are hidden in the treasure-house of a beautiful relation. Every single person and a relation with such a person is a potential source of these beautiful experiences. You mayn't have the bandwidth to develop a great relation with everyone around you. But to gnaw away at an already existing or a potential relation with your own hands is nothing but stupid.
There are big problems which big people solve: climate change, corruption, diseases and illiteracy. Who will solve those little problems which chip away silently at the lives of millions -- billions? These are ordinary problems, hurting ordinary people. They have to be solved by ordinary people like us. Judgemental attitude is one such problem. It's seen in every family, every friend circle, every work place -- every day. We all do it; we all fall victim to it. Both ways, we all suffer. Let's go over the above points, and try and throw away this little epidemic of a bug out of our lives.



Fountain Pen and the Life



The most insightful of thoughts can be written in the most beautiful of handwritings thru' the most precious and joyful of writing experiences -- all with a Rs. 40/- fountain pen, a bottle of ink costing Rs. 20/-, both enough for a lifetime of writing joy.

Isn't life a lot like that? The quality of the experiences you fill it up with have little to do with the physical resources you spend on it. The quality of our life is merely a reflection of our own quality.

Thursday, October 27, 2016

(Foreign) Travel Best Practices


Below, I share a few observations and insights about the do's and don'ts of travelling, particularly travelling to other countries.

I start with a few disclaimers. One, I don't want to pass even a covert message that I am some kind of a professional globe-trotter who has hordes of knowledge about what works and what doesn't when you are travelling. Two, this post is not meant to be a compendium of travelling tips. These are a few of the observations very specific from my experience. Three, what I say below applies to people who are travelling for business or tourism; but may be not to those who are emigrating. Four, this is aligned to Indians travelling abroad, but may apply well to others.

Avoiding Goof-ups

One of the things which can mar a travel like nothing else are moments of anxiety. Delays, missed flights, lost luggage, passport, documents, money, getting stranded in an unknown/strange/dangerous place ... these are all best avoided. What can we do to avoid them.
Prepare/plan early. Preparing a foreign travel is very complex. Arranging funds, tickets, visa are the most important aspects of this preparation. Air tickets are much cheaper if purchased early. Finding out about the visa application process for the country of visit will help save last moment trepidations. It's always good to get in touch with someone in the circle who has either travelled or has stayed in the concerned country. Several finer details like the best way to travel inland, best hotels, places to visit etc. are best got from a person who has gone through the whole thing, rather than just browsing the Internet. Early bookings save money, but come with committing to a plan. Beyond a point, too fine grained a plan could backfire in several ways. First, it definitely rules out certain possibilities. Second, it may suffer over-fitting problem, in the sense that too much detailing makes it brittle. Such over-fitted plans may crumble if one of the components of it fails. As an example, there was a delay in our Bangalore-Heathrow flight. My colleagues had booked their onward train tickets for a train leaving within 3 hours of the original landing time of the flight. Obviously, they missed their train. In the process, they lost several hundred pounds.

Hence, it's more a matter of trade-off. Save money and last minute anxiety by planning early. But keep it sufficiently flexible for the novelty and fault-tolerance aspect. To be precise, I would say, it would be a good idea to make all the major bookings (e.g. long haul flights, and multi-night hotel bookings) early, and leave out the finer details (e.g. how will I spend my weekend in XYZ?) to later research.
Be connected. While travelling to a new place, it's good to know someone who stays there. Have their contact details with yourself, and share yours with them. Let's also accept that travelling abroad is expensive, and if we are to book hotels for every night we stay there, it would drill a hole in our pockets. Staying for a night or two at a friend's place is not merely a trick to save money. It provides a much needed window to catch up. And yes, don't forget to ask them clearly about their convenience and willingness to host you. Try and not be a burden.
Have backup plans. Identifying components of a plan which can fail, and providing backup options, is also a part of good planning. For example, if a flight/train gets cancelled, and you get stranded in a city, it would be good if there's someone in the city who would be ready to give shelter for the night, or you have enough foreign currency with you to be able to rent a hotel room.
Single-process. In airports, railway stations, buses, etc. it's best to avoid haste. Getting hassled and hasty is a very effective preparation to drop something (e.g. money, passport, credit card), or forget something (hotel room key inside your hotel room). I typically go very slow, and take my time to satisfy myself that I am done with doing one thing, before proceeding to the next. For example, if I decide to take coffee at the airport, I sit and have it in peace, and then proceed to security checking. Similarly, at the ticket counters, ATMs etc., I handle my things in a completely single threaded manner: tickets, travel card, cash, luggage. Remembering the 5S principle (of 'a place for everything and everything in its place') is a great idea. Of course, this means that I slow things down, and have to make up for the time by starting earlier than others. This, to me, never seems like a bad idea. I also am conscious that this sometimes comes across as clumsy and irritates bystanders. I consciously avoid feeling agitated by annoyed stares from strangers in such situations.

Your Attitude

Meeting with foreigners outside one's own country is sometimes a source of anxiety. How should we behave with foreigners, particularly when we aren't in the safety of our own country whose methods and means are well-known to us? I have found the following very helpful.

Pride. Wear your cultural pride on your sleeves. We know of many problems in our country. There's no harm talking about them. But there's a thin line between being critical, and being downright disparaging. Being reasonably knowledgeable about one's own country and culture earns you respect. People seem to find India particularly interesting. So, it's nice to be able to help others with interesting bits of information. But there's no need to fake knowledge. On a related note, don't accept outright racist or discriminatory behaviour. But, don't raise hell if you merely suspect discrimination. Be forgiving to involuntary mistakes.

Curiosity and respect for other cultures. Equally important is not to put up a jingoistic face. Some of the most engaging exchanges with foreigners happen when they compare notes about their countries and cultures in a pleasant and scholarly manner. There should be a sense of equality and mutual respect in conversations between people from different geographies and cultures.

Things which always work. There are certain attitudes which always work (at least in my knowledge), regardless of culture and geography. A happy and smiling demeanour is way more effective and impressive than immaculate dressing and stylish mannerisms. Politeness, helpfulness, honesty are culture neutral attitudes which will always earn you respect and acceptance. If you are a guest to someone, appreciating their hospitality is a very right thing to do. Good work ethics like punctuality, keeping of appointments, concern for quality are always good in any professional setting.

Trying to fit in. Trying to blindly imitate someone's dressing style, mannerism and accent is useless and disgraceful. A decent, clean dress is good enough for almost any place. It doesn't make sense to be overly concerned about appropriate dressing beyond a point. Of course, if the climate demands a particular way of dressing, by all means, you should be flexible to change your dressing style. Also, reasonable degree of cleanliness and personal hygiene is important. Avoiding smelly clothes, leaving the bathroom clean after use, are more of little gestures of courtesy to people around you than anything. Similarly, faking accent is a useless ploy. Instead, if you are a good and articulate communicator, you are going to be miles ahead of anyone who breaks his head in sounding like an American or a British. In short, while we all are humans and are fundamentally similar, we should celebrate our little variations and try not to be apologetic about being different from others at a surface level.

Things to avoid

Certain things which are less of a concern in our (and in one's own) country may be more seriously taken elsewhere. It's good to be careful and conservative on such things. Avoid giving frank opinions on religion, sex and politics until an environment of trust has been developed. Don't take photos of strangers if possible. Never post the photos of people, particularly when seen in a family setting, on social networks, unless with express permission. Be careful in your exhibition of affection to people. In India, touching a person of opposite sex affectionately still raises eyebrows, but doing so with a child is acceptable in general. Elsewhere (where women are an empowered lot, and children are more vulnerable), the scenario seems quite the opposite. A shake of hands -- whether it's a person of the opposite sex, a child, or an elder -- to express any form of warmth is quite safe in most cases. Going anyway beyond this should be done after sufficient evidence of its acceptability.

Staying out of the way of dangerous/illegal behaviour, e.g. getting excessively drunk, driving without license or training, drugs, visits to prostitutes, trying to carry illegal/prohibited substances through the ports etc. is definitely a good suggestion.

Site-seeing

In my opinion, the most fascinating aspect of any place are its people and their lives. Ask yourself the question: what's unique about the place? Prior reading and conversation with locals gives you a true idea, and helps you shape in your mind what it is about that place that you would really like to learn and experience: its art forms, food, history, geography? Merely standing in front of a monument and clicking a photo is one of stupidest ways of wasting your time and money. Sorry, my personal opinion. In my recent visit to UK, I deliberately avoided London, though I passed twice through it. London is a major hub, and I anticipate several occasions in future to visit it. Instead, I chose to get up and close with the British countryside, its town-life and its history and culture. I had drives and walks in the wild fields and hills. I walked miles on the pavements of York. I spent time in the living rooms of British people, both recent immigrants and long-term settlers. I couldn't be any happier with my decision.

In summary, I would say that while travelling it's a good idea to try and maximise experience and enjoyment, staying within safe limits. A visit to a new place, whether within the country or outside, should be a source of personal enrichment, rather than a tick on a map, and matter of show-off. And this happens through taking a genuine interest in the place and its people, rather than posing for photographs before famous places.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Oppressors and Common People

What enables oppressors to show such unity? Look at mafia, terrorists, smugglers, corrupt politicians, businessmen, imperialists. They all are hand-in-glove when involved in something vile. Somehow, their teams are extremely strong, despite being much smaller than the number of people they oppress. It's got to do with the common urges which drive them to do what they do. Greed, ambition, anger, fear, ego, vanity etc. are very potent motivators and unifiers.

On the other hand, common people never seem to come together? Because most people are cowards. They would rather hide behind their busy life etc. than come out in the open and speak out. They fear unpleasantness and messing it up with the 'important' and 'influential'. They would sometimes even turn against the very people who are trying to stand for them, just to avoid being marked as an agent of change in the existing social order. And agents of change are a set of creatures oppressors hate the most, and go to any length to get them out of their way.

The dominating emotion among the masses is fear. And here's another way fear works: as a paralyser, which is exactly the opposite of how it works on the oppressors. 

The oppressors often hold positions of influence, and once in a while do their bit to keep the system going. This could easily be construed as a service to the common man. But it's a delusion. A parasite needs the host to remain alive to be able to suck its blood. An intelligent parasite will go to the extreme of helping its host survive when it's about to die, because if the host dies, the parasite can't survive either. An intelligent parasite will also want to keep its victim deluded that it is actually a helpful guest, who should be allowed to suck its host's blood once in a while as a payback for its services. British, when they were here, also built bridges and buildings, apart from looting the people in immeasurable proportions. And even to this day, we punish ourselves by saying that their coming to our land did us a lot of good, whereas the reality is they kept sucking our lifeblood for two centuries, and left us scarred for centuries to come.

The common man -- lazy, ignorant, fearful -- is happy to lead a subjugated life as long as the oppressors keep them away from the need to understand things and take things in their own hands. They are afraid to take responsibility, to fail, to deal with the discomfort of understanding and learning. When the common man stands up to say something, he cowers back down after seeing the menacing look in the eyes of the oppressor which seems to say: 'Speak, and I will drop everything.'

An oppressor -- a social parasite -- will do everything in his means to keep the masses deluded about the true nature of its relation with the oppressor. One of the most potent ways to do this is to keep the masses divided. Mass ignorance is a great ally of the oppressor. People who are divided can easily be dealt with by a handful of oppressors. When the voices of the people come together, it is a beacon of death for the oppressors. Hence, it's a universal characteristic of the oppressor to try and kill communication. A group of sufferers is a formidable force. A lonely sufferer is puny in comparison. He is so afraid and lacking in confidence that his voice can be silenced for ever with a rap on his knuckles.

I now gradually realise why Netaji and Gandhiji were such great leaders. Because they could make millions of cowards come out on the streets and take up a gun or fill jails. Respect!

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

The Evil World of Advertisements

If we were to believe the TV commercials, the biggest problem plaguing our Earth are dry and dull hair and oily/lifeless skin of women. The world will be all happy and satiated if you could solve these problems with all those shampoos, conditioners, fairness creams etc. which by the way are biggest scientific invention ever. Problems which come close to the above in their severity are:
  1. Your not having that one perfect party dress/jewellery which they are selling on their website.
  2. That child in your house who's waiting to turn into the next Einstein or Tendulkar by consuming that health product with a 100 nutrients.

In this day of rising feminism, it's surprising how they get away by saying that:
  1. inner glow of your skin is not a result of a healthy body and mind but can come by an external application of a cream
  2. 'taking care' of yourself doesn't mean empowering yourself with knowledge strength and confidence and spreading message of equality, but making your body hair your most nagging concern while going out with boys.
  3. being a good mother is not teaching your student fundamental life skills but making him drink a health supplement.

I really feel that these commercials are destroying what little good our feminist friends are doing to help women of this world stand up for themselves. One of my good friends, who was doing some life-changing work in advertisements, and since has taken to the debased profession of being a professional artist, had but one thing to say about her past profession: PURE EVIL!